Checking In

August 10, 2010

One of the most flattering things a person can do is check in on a significant other or potential significant other. It shows care, concern and genuine interest when done right. When done wrong it makes you seem like a codependent, anxious, uptight control freak. This can make the other party feel smothered and eventually drive them far away. So the rule, keep it simple! 1 check in during a regular work day. Acceptable forms of check in are specific and have a viable point (brief text, brief phone call or message). Have a point if the check in is during their work day like (messages of encouragement or applause, nice sentiment or compliment) but know your position. If you are interested in starting a relationship don’t send a text saying (typical Neanderthal rhetoric like you looked so hot at the gas station) however if you are married and are looking to spice things up a little that is a perfectly fine message. Remember Lovers GPS is all about knowing where you are in the relationship and how to move things forward positively.

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Conversation

August 10, 2010

Most relationships have talkers and listeners. If you’re a talker make sure that the other party is actually listening. Look at their body language are they leaning toward you or away. If it’s towards respect that and keep it short and sweet and then engage them. If it’s away shut up and engage them now.