You should make the first move when you are the first to realize that a move should be made. Simple enough? The days of old would surprise you. the old school had it’s way of bending convention to suit individual circumstances, if you don’t believe me start asking grandma or grandpa to tell stories. The truth is sometimes you may have the better line of sight and the other person may not have had the chance to experience what you did, so walk on over and say HELLO! Man, Woman who cares because remember you are in this for YOU and your wants and needs. If you want that beautiful person standing on the other side of the grocery store you are going to need to make a move. Carpe’ Diem

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Checking In

August 11, 2010

One of the most flattering things a person can do is check in on a significant other or potential significant other. It shows care, concern and genuine interest when done right. When done wrong it makes you seem like a codependent, anxious, uptight control freak. This can make the other party feel smothered and eventually drive them far away. So the rule, keep it simple! 1 check in during a regular work day. Acceptable forms of check in are specific and have a viable point (brief text, brief phone call or message). Have a point if the check in is during their work day like (messages of encouragement or applause, nice sentiment or compliment) but know your position. If you are interested in starting a relationship don’t send a text saying (typical Neanderthal rhetoric like you looked so hot at the gas station) however if you married and are looking to spice things up a little that is a perfectly fine message. Remember Lovers GPS is all about knowing where you are in the relationship and how to move things forward positively.

Progressive Questions

August 10, 2010

In order to talk to someone you must simply generate a question that solicits a response. However, to hold an effective conversation you must be able to develop the question and answer into a sharing session. Progressive questions take one idea and lead into several like the trunk of a tree into the roots for nutrients or branches for fruit.

Conversation

August 10, 2010

Most relationships have talkers and listeners. If you’re a talker make sure that the other party is actually listening. Look at their body language are they leaning toward you or away. If it’s towards respect that and keep it short and sweet and then engage them. If it’s away shut up and engage them now.